Here we are on June 5th, 2021, 3 years after I thought the house was going to go up, and now it is actually happening. It is very exciting and kind of surreal. I am sure it will feel even more surreal once it starts to take shape.
Up to this point we have:
- The pad built up and sitting for 2 winters, springs and falls
- The financing secured! I discovered that city banks and credit unions don’t finance self builds. I had to go back to Noventis Credit Union and just worked with a branch that is not in my town to keep some level of privacy. They were amazing and are doing everything they can to help me get what I need throughout this build. A big shout out to Noventis!!!
- The first of 4 semi loads of 3/4 inch down gravel for the foundation delivered. The rest to be delivered this afternoon
- The folks from Interlake Formworks coming next week to start forming the foundation
- The plumber coming to rough in the plumbing
- The soil sample taken for the septic field
- The well drilling and septic field fellas from Interlake Water Works waiting for the soil sample and getting the permits
- The first 3 tons of hemp hurd secured and preparing for delivery
- The windows being made
- The swim spa ready for delivery
And now everything starts rolling. The hurry up and wait game has come to an end and now it is time to get the timeline together, figure out all of the trades, coordinate materials, services and work with finances and inspections from the West Interlake Planning District (WIPD) and the credit union. I am fortunate to have some local contractors who will be helping me figure this all out. I have all of the pieces and now I need to help them find their places in time and space.
I am finding that trusting my intuition is working very well throughout this process. I have learned to listen to the nudges I am receiving and am acting on them immediately. I am not pushing the river, but I am also not just letting it flow by. I am taking the action necessary as soon as it becomes available and it is all working out quite smoothly. I am a person who likes to have things all planned out and prepared, locked in in advance, but I am finding that that is not the process for this build. I have to be comfortable with a certain level of not knowing and uncertainty on the timing and process while still doing as much as I can and obtaining as much knowledge as possible to help things to continue to move forward. For example, I have been trying to secure funding for awhile now, but it was not happening. I had been trying to secure a timeline from the foundation folks but it was not happening. We had been reaching out to the gravel folks but had not heard back. I had been communicating with the well and septic folks and was waiting for a response. Then all in one week, the soil sample is taken, the foundation is viewed, the money is secured and the gravel is delivered. All of the pre work and preparation led to it happening smoothly and in an order that I could handle. I just have to trust it will continue to happen this way.
The emotional side of arriving at this point has been large. I am excited and happy, but the process is triggering many old hurts related to having a choice, expressing who I am, standing out, asking for things with the expectation of receiving them and so much more I don’t understand yet. I am trying to be humble to the emotions as they arise and use this opportunity to work though the next level. I have been praying to get out of the stuck and resistance I’ve been feeling, and now that the opportunity to feel is presenting itself I am trying to be open to it. I know in my mind that it will all be better if I can just surrender to the old pains and let them flow out of me, but my heart doesn’t quite believe that truth yet. So I continue to open to what I can, act where I can and feel what I can. I am hopeful it is getting me somewhere, and look, the house is starting to move from a dream to a reality. Something must be working.
